Ways We Self-Sabotage Our Goals (Plus What To Do About It)
Struggling to form a new habit? Hoping to break an old one? You’re likely undermining your efforts. — We’ve all been there. A new year begins. Or even a new month. We commit to reading more books. Getting out of debt. Losing 10 pounds. Inspired we go full force towards our goal. Only to slip off the wagon three or four days later. Feeling like failures, we throw…
“Real wealth is not about money. Real wealth is: not having to go to meetings, not having to spend time with jerks, not being locked into status games, not feeling like you have to say ‘yes,’ not worrying about others claiming your time and energy. Real wealth is about freedom.” –James Clear
Every decision in my life is based on this.
Followers Feature: Kristie Prada’s Unique Way to Support Ukraine
Every Sunday I feature one of my followers. Highlighting the ways their writing inspired or challenge me to be a better human. Come along for the ride. I’m thankful for writers like Kristie Prada. And grateful to Medium for introducing her to me. You see, British mum Kristie is raising…
How the Ukrainian Crisis is Waking Us Up
The aspect of the war no one’s talking about. — At home in my car tonight I’m thinking about Ukraine. I’m camped in the woods. Can’t check for news. Before I left town earlier this evening, I read the nuclear reactor near Ernerhodar was on fire. Threatening to blow up the largest nuclear power plant in Europe. Putting an untold…
Set Yourself Free—Shave Your Head, Woman
Women have a complicated relationship with hair. Should we just shave it off? — **Author’s note. I acknowledge my decision to shave my head comes from privilege. Other women shave their heads due to cancer treatments or alopecia. To these brave women, I send love. On the last day of February 2021, I took a razor to my scalp. Shaving off all of my…
Followers Feature: Rashida Lucy Is Inspiring Us All To Not Give a F*ck
Every Sunday I feature one of my followers. Highlighting the ways their writing inspired or challenge me to be a better human. Come along for the ride. Clearly, RashidaLucy is a force to be reckoned with. I don’t know if she was born this way. But this girl is on fire. This past week, Rashida joined the crew over at Cielo Vida. I’m stoked she stopped by. You see, Rashida is the no-holds-barred BFF…
Tired of Feeling Silenced? How To Get Loud
In 2021 I did a deep dive into cultural silencing. People of color. The LGBTIQA+ community. Women. — I took an honest look at the ways I’ve silenced others. Allowed others to silence me, And I looked frankly at the ways I’ve silenced myself. For me, much of this was tied to childhood trauma. Being raised in a home with an abusive, short-tempered, alcoholic father. Later experiencing rape…
Because that’s what writing should be. A very personal way of leaving a part of us behind in this world. Similar to how a fox’s footprints on the snow tell us the morning after of the animal’s presence in our garden the night before. We might not even notice the snow, were it not for our vulpine friend’s nocturnal visit.
This is delicious writing. And true.
Olympic Gold Mindset: The Only Mental Hack We Medium Writers Need
Earlier this month, 22-year-old team USA skater Nathan Chen won Olympic gold. Chen rose up from the ashes after a bad fall during competition in the 2018 Olympics. Instead of allowing himself to be defeated, he came back in 2022 — to victory. — Afterward, he credited a major mindset shift for his success. He’d stopped focusing on winning. “Whether I won, whether I lost, I [wanted] to gain as much as I could [from the experience] that didn’t revolve around what sort of placement I got.”